Women who want children to find a high priority in their twenties, a partner. The Newsweek story that marrying the magazine cover this week, Marriage by numbers, the agreement after 35 years of waiting to. Newsweek examines the saying that women are more likely hit by a truck to be to marry after 35 years.
But the article does not refer to one of the most pressing issues of Generation X: infertility. No generation has more women of this generation with fertility problems who received terrible advice, "Wait. You have the time. Concentrate on your first career."
In fact, you have all your life to have a career. This does not apply to have a baby.
If you are over the twenties heterosexual or not, if you are single and want children with a partner, even if you need to perform a search. Take this career and drive in the direction opposite because their professional skills to survive her ovaries.
If you think that you expect "right time", there is no evidence that in the career of a woman who is best to have children. At any time, they will be thrown off course. At any time, if a woman has children, statistically they will begin to make less money, even if they do not take maternity leave, it. There is no evidence that it is easier to take time in the labor force at a given moment in a career. The people do not know.
Phyllis Moen, professor of sociology at the University of Minnesota, said in an interview: "Do not wait for the moment in his career, a baby or who never come."
However, there is much evidence that the biological clock of a woman taking a nosedive to 35. I know that age, because I began with children. Geneticist and my husband has a diagram Down Syndrome and nearly collapsed me, when we saw the cliff to 35. We had no idea. This cliff syndrome, however, is a substitute for everything from a large percentage of fertility statistics sick 35th.
There are also a lot of evidence to say that children apart with at least two years is best for children. However, there is a clear benefit for children born first. They are richer, wiser, and as if that were not enough, every year, 90% of freshmen were born at Harvard University. You can mitigate the effects of birth order of his second son three years between children.
If you start when you are 31 years, can take two or three years apart before you are 35 years. But this plan does not take into account that about 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. That means you get a chance to go through three pregnancies have two children, which means that you should start when you are 30.
If you have babies, if you want to thirty, and you want to get married when you twenty. This is good news, because if you are very young can be more at home divorce, but much better stats if you wait until you twenty. For a healthy marriage, experts believe that people should marry two or three years before the examination with children. A reasonable expectation is, someone to make the date for a few years, and at the time of committing nearly a year for a wedding. So you have to know the person at the age of twenty.
So that means you can make sense for men to work hard on his career in his early twenties, but women can not afford. Women should be the time of his life looking for a partner in the same systematic taking, concentrated way women are looking for a career in his early twenties. And do not say you are waiting to learn until you know yourself better. Get to know is an ongoing process, and after 25 years waiting to marry not to reduce the likelihood of divorce.
The good news is that the large body of research shows that you married attract more lucky to be having a good job. Yes, you should not have to choose between a good job choosing and marriage. But this column is not about what or what is good right. This is what is real.
You can not control your body clock and can not control the workplace. But you can control how you spend your time and energy, and you should look for a man much earlier search. Align first marriage, then the race.
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