It may be 2016, but when it comes to marriage, a woman say are still living in the 1950s, the word marriage and photos of a family, cooking, cleaning the float before our eyes. But no, we cook or cleaning. Nor is it nodded and please your MIL. A marriage is a union, not to be a partnership between two people and the responsibility always, but divided. There are many things to do a modern man, to ensure that the Union must be equal. But then there are some things that every woman should learn and understand before the wedding to. What exactly are they? Continue reading ...
1. Marriage Laws
Ha! Why am I not the marriage laws is required, you kidding? But remember, in Asia, marriage is not only a union of two people, but often two families. We could shout that we modern roofs, but when it comes to happiness living in the marital union position, there are many Nitty gritties might not know. For example: Did you know that according to the Hindu Marriage Act, conversion or change of religion by either the husband or wife is a valid reason for divorce? That's secularism! No, we do not suggest that every marriage divorced or you have to be careful, to be before marriage, but it could be a great help in the future, if you are aware of your rights and laws. Also, if you are married, it could not only help you save your marriage, but you might also be able to find someone who does not know the relevant laws and going through a difficult time to help. Talk to a lawyer friend or just laws and basic facts google. It will definitely make you feel much more safe and secure. Also, if the occasion arises at all, you know what and what is right and wrong without posting any run from pillar, or visit one of the many women's organizations to help / lawyers (which is given a costly affair).
2. Medical tests
There are many problems that can arise in marriage at a later date, if you are not careful now. While HIV testing for couples is getting increasingly popular in urban areas, it should be mandatory for couples planning to marry. The test does not mean that you do not have a good character, but rather to be seen as a step into the future. Marriage marks the beginning of a new family and if you are unsure your medical history, you may jeopardize your child's life.
In addition, tests obtained before the marriage can take a lot of pain and heart disease to save at a later date. This is important not only for those who love marriages, where past spouse may be known to some extent, but also important, arranged marriages, where, most often, unaware you're history your partner. If a woman desperately wanting his children, a man who can not father children marry, it could lead to difficulties in the future. While in a love match, could test the connection of the pair in an arranged marriage, it could lead to blame the games, not only between the partners, but also families. Get clean medical reports sets your mind at peace and helps build trust. Later, when something develops in the future, the partners are kept in the dark together and not fight against the guilt of the past or. This also applies to a man and a woman, but sometimes women are reluctant to test, because they believe that it could get a charge on their character. You must get rid of the stigma.
3. How to say no Diplomacy
No, we do not mean in the negative direction extreme here. But a woman needs to know exactly when and how to say no to a marriage. It does not matter if your husband or in-laws you are forced or emotionally blackmail you. If you feel something wrong, you should be able to be your opinion, according to state. Also, if you get married, it is pushed a load of responsibility on you and a thousand people that you need please. It can not be all. You must learn to politely put your foot down if people force you to start doing things. It could not be more dramatic things, but small and simple as cooking a full meal every night. It is not possible, perhaps, that you to cook a workstation of 3-course menu that you are exhausted to. But rather than refuse strictly, you can ask your husband (or mother-in-law, if you stay together), to help. it will help to better catch in the handle and you can also find the other day! This does not preclude the refusal to relate things to do, but it is to put the foot to do the wrong things. Suppose your husband and family asking for monetary help, they do not entirely reject. If you have the means, and the family really needs the money to help them. But if they demand dowry under the guise of help, you need to learn to say a firm step, without deteriorating the relationship further.
But how did you put your foot to, then do not forget that every marriage is based on compromise and adjustment. Am I doing something that you do not want to keep your family happy go a long way in making stronger relationships. You might feel uncomfortable in traditional clothes, but if only during festivals or functions of the family, you dress saree in your family, you are good, it is a gesture that will not be wasted.
We do not suggest you go old school and cook a full meal for your family twice daily with breakfast and snacks. But learn some basics of cooking will certainly help. Suppose it's just the two of you to stay together and the maid goes a long farewell of the week, what will you do? You can not eat in a restaurant every day or survive Maggi. If you know how to cook only the basics, maybe you can have a quick meal dal-chawal to fix with the help of her husband and be happy. Or imagine a scenario where your husband is out of town for work and the girl decides to renounce. Basic culinary skills or just quick-fix recipes can be useful in any case. Also try your hand at a recipe without gas as a salad and enjoy your in-laws might be impressed with your cooking skills! Yes, in Asia, it does not matter where you come from, you will surely be judged on your kitchen from the family. Knowing a little help not only to save face, but only once even if it fun.
5. The man in all the struggles of the family do not pull
This is a problem, every few passes. The wife and mother-in-law do not get along. The mother complained to the son and his wife complained to her husband. In both cases it is frustrated man. If you encounter problems that interact with the elders of the family, will first try to make them calmly instead of dragging your husband between each argument to talk and resolve the problem. Of course, you talk to your husband and asked him to solve the problem, but it will also help to be exercised in a manner which does not irritate him. Remember, though, he has to choose between a mother and a woman. Not exactly an easy choice. Also, if you keep cribbing all the time, it could lead to strained relations within the household. If you live alone-laws, and you go in and out, not every time they come to wince. Instead, try giving the son of the time with his parents, if you're really hard to find them. Be diplomatic and understanding is the key here. Tell him to complain about the things that really matter, but not about every little disagreement.
6. Communicate
Communication is the key to any relationship. Yes, it is the duty of her husband to keep you happy and vice versa, but what will the man, if you tell him? It is not to do things or do not meet your expectations, do not blame. Instead of learning to share your wishes and dreams. You're married to him and not a slave. If you do not like something, what he does, tell him. It might not even know that he's doing it all the time. If you communicate and make your marriage stronger. Also not talk easily. Men are usually the ones that do not use a lot of words, but they have a lot to say, might as well have. Try to share with each other about their dreams and desires and things. The toughest stains are navigated in a marriage by when the partners know how to communicate. You need to be able to communicate not only with her husband, but also in the rules. Show them that you care. If you leave your house and into a new place, one feels out of place. but also understand that your in-laws also have a new member in their community, and they may be afraid to make you uncomfortable. Show your appreciation by making gestures. Call your members of the extended family and try to connect with them. You never know, you might find that your youngest aunt MIL is the sister you never had!
7. Sex can be fun
Women in asia, especially those who continue to treat non-urban areas, sex as a duty. Women need to realize that sex can be fun and enjoyable. It's not always about the man. The opening to make your husband and you will love the experience enjoyable for both. Try sex and different ways to understand to enjoy. Read more about it, share your worries and fears with your husband and it could help you to make fun chore. If you are not satisfied with your man is doing something or you're just too tired to try to tell him. Try also to start, or the first step sometimes. We promise you, your partner will enjoy it more!
In addition to knowing the sex can be pleasant, you also need to know that your contraceptives. Condoms and pills are not the only methods of contraception available. There are many more options, and if you know about them, the combined safe and fun sex sure to spice up your love life.
8. Your parents you still need
9 is financially sounds
This is something that every woman has to look before marriage. Be independent. You do not need a woman to work or a 9-5 job, but at least everything about finance and filing your taxes is to be essential. Her husband could have a nice stock, but you never know what the future holds. If not with your own job and financially independent, learn atleast your husband's income to save for the future. If you already have a job, learn how to manage your accounts and split two parts, the money also. it is not right, your husband expect to pay for everything all the time. You can set up a joint account in which you both a certain amount of money to deposit the beginning and the money for the household expenses. In this way, you both contribute equally and also experiencing the other person, experienced and budget management. Things like knowing your currency, banking solutions (fixed deposits, provident fund, pension plans, etc.) will help you, both of you also save for a rainy day and understand the finances.
10. They are the better half
Marriage is a beautiful journey of two people. You and your husband are both equally responsible for the success or failure of your. Yes, there are many things about weddings in Asia, the need to change. But that does not mean that women do not just sit and blame men for everything. They are a part of the wedding and better half of her husband. It is your ability to conflicts that take to solve your family in times of crisis. They are very responsible for your relationship as responsible as her husband. Place your hands at the first sign of trouble will not help anyone. Try to solve the problem, and that if things get out of hand, take drastic measures. Also, how the better half, the same love and respect to earn you. For your man Never let someone or something to make your appreciation and respect themselves.
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